Chivalrous men are dead because women killed them

Marissa Villarreal

I hear all the time about the struggle of finding a good man from my friends, they tell me about the manipulative games  guys play with their hearts and the lies they tell to get into their heads.

It seems like a never ending cycle and more often then not, I find them left heartbroken.

I feel for women who have gone through this, I myself have been there before and have ended up hating guys because of it but sometimes I ask myself if all the blame really should fall on the man, if he really did disrespect you just because he’s an jerk or if there might be something more to it.

Dating is not what it used to be, a guy will not come to the door anymore to pick you up, he will simply shoot you a text, “here,” upon his arrival.

Not very gentlemen-like if you ask me, but besides technology, I think we have to accept the fact that dating is not the same because standards are not as high as they used to be.

It goes both ways but I think it is important for women to see that we no longer hold the same high standards for ourselves as women generations before us have.

Women nowadays have no respect for themselves and if we do not respect ourselves, what makes us think a simple minded man will?

They lead by example and if you allow yourself to get the reputation of a girl who hops from guy to guy or a girl who is known for posting half naked photos on social media websites, you cannot expect respect in return.

Such trashy behavior attracts the wrong kind of guys. A gentleman would never want to associate with a girl who twerks in the clubs when she gets too drunk, instead he’d want a girl who contains herself in a classy manner when drinking yet can still have fun. You would never find grandma twerking on grandpa in the clubs, would you?

Probably not, because grandma’s generation of women had respect for themselves which ultimately lead to respect and love from gentlemen like grandpa.

It seems like women today are so desperate for love or attention that they have lowered their stanards for themselves and others, they will let guys treat them any which way just for what they believe to be love.

So when a guy is not fufilling her idea of a perfect boyfriend or husband, she is left blaming him.

To avoid this cycle, I advise women to take a step back and realize the actions, behavior and standards for themselves before expecting anyone else to come treat them any better then they are treating themselves.

You show people how to treat you and by respecting yourself first, you will attract not only the right kind of men but you will find a man who will respect you enough to not play mind games or toy with your emotions.

I believe there is still hope for chivalry and it starts with respect for ourselves.

  • Mesa Legend Staff

    These are archived stories from Mesa Legend editions before Fall 2018. See article for corresponding author.

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