Friendship is not what it used to be, here is why
Julija Kaselyte
Never alone, but always lonely.
It is such a common feeling everyone experiences at least every once in a while.
Friendship is an undeniable glory, but many of us don’t appreciate it.
We spend so much time online chatting to people that we don’t even realize how fun it would be to actually have a real conversation over a cup of coffee.
I don’t believe that talking to a person and being separated by the computer screen is a real friendship.
I am so sick of communicating via social networks, it’s like being isolated from the world and locked in your room.
I understand when there is no choice.
I personally am grateful that technology helps me to stay in contact with some friends in other continents.
But if a friend lives a couple miles from you, then put your phone away, shut off your computer and be a real friend.
You may ask what it is like to be a real friend then.
Friendship helps to know yourself and others better, exchange points of view, and plan the future.
I would say that a “good friend” is similar to a “good person.”
You should be open and honest with your friends.
Yes, we do have disagreements with friends, but
let’s admit it, we don’t know a friend 100 percent, we just know how a person comes off to us.
We see a friend with no one else’s eyes, but ours, so we basically see our own reflection.
People often try to remove disruptive weaknesses or, in our view, annoying behavior from a friend. But have we ever thought that we possibly, have exactly the same weaknesses.
So why don’t we just work on ourselves first not others?
Because it is always easier to try to change someone else, instead of ourselves.
Overall, I don’t think friendship is about changing each other.
It is about understanding, adjustment, and getting along.
Sometimes imbalance and miscommunication may be confusing and frequent even among best friends, but it something everyone can work on.
All of us live our lives and have different interests, but isn’t it wonderful to share those with close people we call friends?
I think friendship is equally about giving and receiving.
Neither is dominant. It is about helping and supporting.
Remember “The Kite Runner?”
Two friends, rich and poor, were two peas in a pod.
But one day when the rich boy saw a few kids hurting his friend, he didn’t help him.
Did he not care?
I don’t think so.
But for the record, he never forgot about it and regretted for all his life.
I don’t think we need such lessons to experience so we would start appreciating what we have, our friends.
