Love works if properly defined
Sebastian Miguel
Mesa Legend
All of us have a deep desire to love and be loved. There are an array of levels of love that we receive from parents, siblings, friends, and others. The most common kind of love is the special intimate kind of love we wish to share with someone. Finding real love can seem like an incredibly difficult thing in this world and at times, impossible. Doubt and worry may come in and we begin to ask, “Does true love really exist?” The media and dating sites are good at getting us to ask the wrong questions about finding love. We stop to ask, “Is there true love?” but we never stop to ask, “What is true love?” Once we discover the true definition of love then are we able to look at people and ourselves in a different light.
No doubt, this world tosses around the word “love” like a bag of chips. We have lost its meaning. We often associate love with the warm, fuzzy, butterflies that we get when we are attracted to someone. But that isn’t love, that’s a infatuation. When love is shallowly rooted in pleasant emotions or physical feelings, it can be turned off as easily as it was turned on. There is nothing wrong with the emotions we have toward someone but when those things are the foundation of any relationship, we’ve set sail for disaster from the beginning. Feelings fade and wither like flowers do. We have this mentality that there is only one “right” person for us out there. But this way of thinking can trap us into only noticing the flaws in another person and as a result, we lose interest and the lack of commitment through good times and bad times is revealed.
We don’t find the right person but we commit to becoming the right person for someone. Love is commitment even through the dry deserts of emotion. When feelings have passed away, love can remain because we committed to caring for another person with our hands and not with our emotions. When we have this definition of love in our minds, then can we love our spouse, neighbor, friends, or family with more endurance. As it’s been well said, ‘Love should never be a war but it is something worth fighting for.’ Love does not have to be something so difficult to achieve if the right definition is set in place.
