LEGEND’S View
Let go of past-due friendships
The end of a friendship can be much more difficult to decipher than the end of a relationship. It occurs when the inside jokes stop being funny, the disagreements become arguments. You realize that both of you have become two very different adults, a far cry from the kindergartens that met by the monkey bars. There are some people that can go their whole lives with the same group of friends they had in high school. However,some of us feel we have outgrown them. No longer sharing similar interests, the same sense of humor, or even the same values.This is not to say that people who are different cannot be the best of friends. It is often true as it is with romance, that opposites attract.
For such a union, platonic or romantic to thrive, the differences between both parties must be readily accepted.
Each person must be accepted, and loved, for exactly who they are, regardless of how many times they may change their mind. However, despite whatever changes we may be experiencing in our own world, our old friends can sometimes cling to their preconceived notions of who they think we are. If a life-long friend cannot accept the new you, or the new you cannot accept your life-long friend, it may be time to part ways. Unlike romantic relationships, breaking up with your friends is not the subject of countless romantic comedies or Adele’s latest album. There are no familiar cliches, like crying and eating an entire can of ice cream, nor is there a daily onslaught of pop anthems telling you you that this loss will make you stronger. But just like a lover’s split, breaking up with a friend who is not right for you may be the first step in your development into the person you want to be. Be honest and tell them that it’s not you, it’s definitely me.
